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Do these two things to strengthen your discipline
Do these two things to strengthen your discipline
Do these two things to strengthen your discipline
I often get questions about how do I have such a good discipline when it comes to my wellbeing and showing up to my goals. So, I thought I can share a few tips that have really helped me.Last month, I did food intolerance test, which tells you on 200 foods which ones you are intolerant for and which are okay for you to eat to optimise your gut health.I found out I was intolerant to 17 foods including gluten, dairy, eggs, peanuts, almonds, hazelnuts, many seeds, chickpeas, yeast, coconut, most of which I had eaten in my daily diet! I was not expecting that excessive results, considering I had never been allergic to anything.They told me I have to cut those foods off for 12 weeks to let my stomach recover, and then I can try one by one reintroduce them to see if I can bring any of them back into my diet.Even the nutritionist said this was a very severe profile they don't see often, and they said I can try cutting some in the beginning. However, when I do something, I go all in.If this was finally going to heal my gut and improve my overall health, I was going to do it. But in order to be able to cut all those foods, I knew it was going to take a lot of discipline.My discipline has always been pretty good. Working out 5-6 times a week is nonnegotiable, unless I am under the weather. I have tried many wellbeing tricks from fasting to being without alcohol for a year to taking a 30-day break from sugar.When I decide something, I do it and I stick to it.So, how do I do it?WHAT IS DISCIPLINE?First, let's define discipline how I see it in this context. Discipline is action taken, even when difficult or when we don't feel like it, to achieve a goal.Those mornings when you wake up supposed to go on that run but it is raining or to the gym but your muscles are sore. Those mornings when you are supposed to work on that project you really want to finish, but "you don't feel like it" or those moments you really want to eat take out and not meal prep.We all have our own stories that start playing in our minds with our own specific goals.To use the common example of waking up in the morning and not feeling like working out, I remind myself of these two things:1. I remind myself of my whyWhy is doing this important? What am I doing it for?To keep my muscles strong and my body mobile, so I can be most mobile and strong even when I hit my elder age. To live a long healthy life without pains and aches in my body. To feel my best for the day ahead. List goes on...2. I remind myself how I feel after
I remind myself how I feel the moment I am done with that workout. How awake and energised I feel. How the endorphins fuel me for the rest of the day. How much more focused I am. How much better I tolerate sitting at my desk after moving body. How much more confident I feel.After both of these reminders, I am out of bed.When your why and feelings around the goal or action are strong, discipline gets easier.The key thing is that the goal or action needs to be meaningful for you and the emotions around strong - that is when discipline gets stronger too.I want to finish withn this quote, which is like a drop on this cake of the reminders I need to strengthen my discipline."Discipline is one of the greatest forms of self love, because you're loving yourself enough to give yourself everything that you've ever wanted."You to be disciplined in what is important to you, where your why and feelings are strong, is self-love.As the quote states, for you to show up with discipline for the things that matter to you, you are giving yourself what you desire the most. And what we desire the most, does not come easy.That goal that matters to you the most is why you set it in the first place. You to do it even when you don't feel like it is self-love because you are giving yourself what you want.How about that as a perspective shift?As for my diet changes, I am over two weeks in not eating all of those foods. Reminding myself how poorly I felt before, seeing how much better I feel now in my body and knowing what a massive change this will do for my overall health long term makes my discipline strong. Even though I miss and love bread and peanut butter, I love myself more and want to feel my best in this life rather than having the momentary of pleasure of something that is not even good for me.I hope all this helps you with your discipline to give yourself everything you want and reach those goals that mean the world to you.You deserve it all.Heartfully,EssiPS: I am holding next Connecting Moment online - 30minutes of journaling and meditation this Sunday June 11th at 6pm where you can give yourself a self-love moment! Click here to grab your free seat.
We all need someone to talk to and be heard, right?That's why we're hosting a free monthly get-together for women over coffee/tea where you can share whatever's on your mind and get support in a casual circle setting.No judgment, just good vibes and safe space to chat about anything that's been weighing on you and make connections with other women over a cup of coffee! Let's lift each other up!WHERE AND WHAT TO EXPECTThis month, we will meet in the Hub Cafe in Victoria Park where we will all get a drink to start and then find a spot to relay our picnic blankets for our circle discussion.We welcome all womxn. Please bring a friend if you know someone who could use a space like this - the more the merrier! However, everyone, including your guests, needs to have signed up to get a ticket.These monthly meetups are my highlight and every time we leave the space feeling inspired and energised. I look forward to connecting with you.
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What would love do?I love this question. Perfect way to connect to the energy of love. If you don't know what to do, just ask: what would love do in this moment?Because when you act from energy of love, nothing can ever go wrong.
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