Self-respect is at the heart of loving yourself and living courageously from the heart. I just had a long coaching conversation untangling the limiting stories and conditioning that can make us respect others, so much so that it costs us the respect and honor for ourselves.

We all have done it. Myself included. So, this is important to navigate!

Let’s dive in.

FIRST, WHAT IS SELF-RESPECT?

The Cambridge Dictionary defines self-respect as “a feeling of respect for yourself that shows that you value yourself.” Merriam-Webster describes it as “a proper respect for oneself as a human being” and “regard for one’s own standing or position.”

But in practice, what does that really mean?

It’s easy to show respect for others, but what about yourself?

How often do you:

• Set standards for how you allow yourself to be treated?

• Honor your own boundaries, even when it’s uncomfortable? And do you even know what your boundaries are in different contexts?

• Speak to yourself with kindness instead of self-criticism?

• Walk away from situations that undermine your worth?

SIGNS YOU HAVE SELF-RESPECT:

• You say no without guilt when something doesn’t align with your values or well-being.

• You don’t over-explain or justify your decisions in seek of approval.

• You are not afraid of standing up for your case, even if it contradicts others in the room.

• You take care of your body, mind, and emotions because you believe you’re worthy of care.

• You surround yourself with people who respect you and distance yourself from those who don’t.

• You let go of people and situations that don’t serve you.

• You keep promises you make with yourself.

• You set and enforce boundaries that protect your peace.

HOW TO CULTIVATE SELF-RESPECT - 4 ACTIONS:

1. Identify your values. What truly matters to you? Values are our compass for self-respect and living a life that aligns with your heart.

2. Check in with yourself. Notice when you feel discomfort or resentment—these emotions often point to crossed boundaries.

3. Try setting one boundary today. It could be declining an extra task at work, taking time for yourself without feeling guilty or making a promise with yourself.

4. Practice self-compassion. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself.

BOUNDARY SETTING: THE FOUNDATION OF SELF-RESPECT

Boundaries are where self-respect starts They communicate what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Setting them isn’t selfish—it’s a declaration of your self worth. And when you hold them, you reinforce that worth within yourself and to those around you.

If this is something you want to explore more deeply, in my next Connected Circle, we will dive into this topic deeper.

Come learn with me to set boundaries with confidence!

I would also love to hear from you. How is your connection to self-respect? Any insights? I love to hear from you. Reply to this email and share your thoughts. x

With love and respect,
Essi

🫀 THE CONNECTED CIRCLE 🫀
Bold and Brave Boundary Setting

WHAT IS THE CONNECTED CIRCLE?

The Connected Circle is a 2-hour guided sharing circle designed to foster meaningful connections through mindfulness, reflective conversations, and interactive connection activities. This is a space where we co-create a heartful experience, rooted in real-time, authentic sharing.

💡 This Month's Theme: BOLD & BRAVE BOUNDARY SETTING
Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and courage. In this month's circle, we will explore what it means to set and uphold boundaries with confidence, clarity, and compassion—in friendships, relationships, work, and everyday life.

💛 In a world where we are more "connected" than ever yet often feel deeply alone, the need for genuine human connection has never been greater.

🌿 This is a space for anyone longing for deep, meaningful conversations—beyond small talk and surface-level interactions. Here, we create a brave, nonjudgmental space where you can show up exactly as you are, be seen, be heard, and be held, and learn something new about yourself.

✨ This is a safe, inclusive space—welcoming every kind of brain, body, background, belief, identity, and experience. Whether you are neurodivergent, disabled, LGBTQIA+, a person of color, from any faith or none, or from any cultural or socioeconomic background—you belong here.

📅 2nd Thursday evening of the month
⏳ 7pm-9pm | 2 Hours of Collective Togetherness
- arrivals by 6:50pm to start promptly on time.
📍 The Bath House | Hackney Wick

THIS SPACE IS FOR YOU IF:

✔️ You struggle to say no and often put others’ needs before your own.
✔️ You want to set boundaries without guilt and express your needs with confidence.
✔️ You feel drained by one-sided relationships or overcommitment.
✔️ You crave deep, authentic conversations that nourish your heart.
✔️ You're navigating life transitions, heartbreak, burnout, or change and need support in protecting your energy.
✔️ You long to be part of a supportive, diverse community where vulnerability is met with kindness.
✔️ You’re ready to step into your power by setting boundaries that honor your well-being.

Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away—they’re about creating space for deeper, healthier connections. If this resonates, this circle is for you. 💛