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Why consistency is key to gain respect and trust in relationships
Why consistency is key to gain respect and trust in relationships
Why consistency is key to gain respect and trust in relationships
Firstly, I want to apologize that you did not receive a letter from me last week in the typical two week consistency. I have to be honest, even now I am writing this on the morning of when this letter is supposed to be coming out. I am going through the usual coming back to work phase after taking some time off.I took couple of weeks off, and even though I knew last week was time for a letter. I could not get myself to do even that bit of creative work that I enjoy. I really needed to switch off fully from work as I found myself feeling quite burnt out going on holiday.I could not even prepare this letter beforehand as these letters are quite intuitive for me and I often write them close to them from a feeling what is resonating with me at that time.So, what is resonating with me now?Consistency.Yes, not being able to follow through my consistent action sending this newsletter really left me reflecting on the importance of consistency.Consistency to me is about respect and trust.For me, sending this letter out to you biweekly is a way to show up for you and when we show up consistently - we create respect and trust. Therefore, when we do not show up, like I did not last week, it takes humility and honesty to apologise and admit the reasonings why to keep the respect and trust that is built.When there is inconsistency regularly - we can lose that trust and respect whether it is in a working or personal relationship or with ourselves. Inconsistency does not feel good to us and that in itself tells us there is disconnection happening. Inconsistency makes us feel that we are not priority and not important. In personal relationships, this shows up for examply by committing to communicate with consistency. I just visited Finland and had heart-to-hearts with my two best friends about how we can create consistency in our friendship by communicating more consistently. We created our own way of being consistent within what works within our relationship going onward.This promoted trust, love and respect for each other and I know our friendships will flourish even more by having this in place. Just two days ago my friend reached out as agreed - and it made me feel so good - so connected.Consistency looks different depending on the relationship and context but the key is to create the habit of consistency that serves you, your values and standards in life.When we consistently show up - we create trust and show respect. Consistency is also about love. When we are consistent with ourselves or others - we show up with the energy of love.I respect and love myself when I consistently show up for myself five times a week to work out.I respect and love my dreams by consistently showing up to act on them.I respect and love others by consistently communicating with the people I love and being consistent with other actions within that relationship.I respect and love my job and this community if I consistently show up here.So, I got a few connecting questions for you to reflect on:What does consistency mean to you?What do you need consistency wise at work and in your personal life?What does consistency look like in your friendships?How about romantic relationships?Where are you showing up consistently? Where not? Where do you need to communicate a need of consistency that you perhaps have not?Setting up the standards of consistency is key to not only succeed in life but to live a life where there is trust, respect and love. When there is love, respect and trust and consistent action - foundations for fulfillment and success are created.Inconsistency promotes disconnection.Consistency promotes connection.I hope this letter serves you to look at how consistency presents itself in your life and how you can create more of it.And for me, this means that these biweekly letters are now back in action! You'll find me in your inbox again in two weeks.Lots of love. Thank you for being here.Heartfully,Essi
Question for connection
Besides consistency, what are other elements that I need in my relationships with others to create more trust, respect and love?Consistency is only one thing, but there can be other things that are important for you to make your relationships flourish. Have a think. Connect.See what surfaces from your heart.
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