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How to navigate the in-betweens with grace

How to navigate the in-betweens with grace

In my last two days in Bali, I’m sitting here with the bittersweetness of endings, the beginnings, and all the in-betweens in this uncertain transition.

Essi Auguste Virtanen
January 28, 2025

I’m writing this from my last two days in Bali, and to be honest, I’m feeling… everything.

Bittersweet is the word that keeps coming to mind, but even that doesn’t quite capture it. It’s like I’m on a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement for what’s ahead, sadness for what I’m leaving behind, and a strange stillness that comes with being in this in-between space.

And isn’t that what life so often feels like?
The in-between moments, where you know change is happening, but you don’t quite know where you’ll land.

I found this on Instagram the other day that verbalizes this beautifully:

I’m writing this to you with a beautiful Indian Ocean view in Uluwatu in this beautiful Italian cafe Son of a Baker (a must visit to anyone in Ulu).

I’m sitting with all these feelings—letting them be what they are, without trying to force answers or clarity. It’s not always comfortable, but I’ve found a few things that help me navigate these transitions with grace:

Allowing space for all the feelings. Joy, sadness, hope, uncertainty—there’s room for all of it. None of it is “wrong.” The only way is feeling through them.
Trusting the process. The in-between can feel messy, but it’s also where growth happens. I try to remind myself that I don’t need all the answers right now.
Taking small steps. Even when I feel overwhelmed, I focus on just small things I can do. I allow myself to do less and feel more.
Allow more rest. When in the in-between, it is a lot for the mind, body and heart to process. You must prioritise rest. Slow mornings, more sleep, naps, gentle physical movement and giving yourself moments to just be and sit.
Connect. You don’t have to go at it alone. Connect with someone you trust and ask to be held and seen as you transition so someone can be with you even if from afar. It makes the transition lighter.

As I get ready to pack up and leave the Island of Gods, I keep coming back to this:

The in-between is not a place to fear or rush through. It’s a space to lean into, to trust, and to grow from.

So if you’re in your own in-between moment right now—whether it’s a career shift, a relationship transition, or just a season of uncertainty—I want you to know you’re not alone. And you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

WANT SUPPORT FROM ME? Let’s connect.

Take it one small step at a time. You’re doing it better than you think.
Give yourself grace and space.

With love from Bali - one last time (for now…)
Essi

PS: I’d love to hear: how are you navigating in-betweens? Got any other tips? Just hit reply to share.

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How to navigate the in-betweens with grace

In my last two days in Bali, I’m sitting here with the bittersweetness of endings, the beginnings, and all the in-betweens in this uncertain transition.

I’m writing this from my last two days in Bali, and to be honest, I’m feeling… everything.

Let's keep connecting.

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