My heart aches.

I’ve had a lot difficult conversations in the last few weeks within my friendships. No wonder with this Mercury Retrograde, which brings back unfinished business for it to be cleared.

Change is constant in relationships.

As you change, so do your connections. That is just how life works.

Your personal growth comes with growing pains. And damn, it hurts.

Not everyone is going to come on the journey with you. Everyone is not going to be ready. Everyone is not meant to be.

As one of my favourite quote says:

“People come into your life for a season, a reason or a life time.”
- Brian A. Chalker

I’m feeling into the grief of some people in my life turning from what I thought could be a lifetime into a season and a reason.

I choose gratitude for that as every connection has a reason, but my heart aches.

It’s a breakup. We go through breakups in friendships, too. When a friendship ends or changes you go through the same feelings.

Letting go what you thought would be.
Letting go of the dreams and plans you had.
The sting in the heart when you see a meme they would like or a podcast they would love to listen to, but you can’t send it anymore.

Breakups are painful, and they feel painful because breakups are love.

If you’re navigating breakups in friendships, too, allow yourself to grieve. Allow yourself to be sad about it. Go through all the five stages of grief again and again from denial to anger, bargaining and depression and moving through each of those again and again.

The only way is to feel and move through it.

Eventually, you will get to the acceptance that this was for the best.
Everything went exactly how it went and was meant to be so, because it did.

Trust the natural journey that sometimes entails endings and changes we might not always want, but we know that it is the best for everyone.

Trust that endings and changes are either Universe’s protection or they are just simply “assigned to your destiny” as Jamie Kern Lima says in her book Worthy.

Or, the ending might be just for now. Trust that if someone is meant to come back or be in your life - you won’t miss them. They will come back when the time is right.

TWO THINGS TO DO WITH FRIENDSHIP BREAKUPS TO LOOK AFTER YOUR HEART.

1. SAY YOUR PEACE, FOR YOU.

I always say truth brings out truth. Even if painful, truth is the best way to live because it is then leading everyone in the right place.

Remember to always express your truth. Say your peace, for YOU. Even if someone has ghosted you, just say what you need to say for your own closure. Send that message or write a letter for them and burn it, if you don’t want contact.

Just make sure you say your peace.

Say everything you need to close the door and end so that your heart can have peace. It will usually take vulnerability and courage that you won’t have any regrets. Be your own advocate with loving kindness.

2. ALLOW THEM HAPPEN. DON’T RESIST THEM.

The more you force and resist, the more you slow down what is actually meant for you coming in. As Mel Robbins would say, let them. Let the friendships end. Don’t hold on. Let go.

My word of intention in 2025 is allowing. How fitting. I allow life unfold and choose trust.

Even though my heart aches with many changes and endings. I know those are opening space for new relationships to come that serve me where I am.

So, remember: when something comes to an end, it means something else is beginning. It’s the beautiful circle of life.

Look after you and your heart.

Are you navigating friendship breakup or a breakup of any kind?

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With love,
Essi